1. Be yourself. Your boyfriend is with you because he likes you, not some phony person that you’re trying to be. So, be yourself. He obviously likes what he’s seen so far, otherwise he wouldn’t be bothering to spend time with you. Just relax and try to enjoy the time you spend together.
How to Make Conversation With Your Boyfriend: 12 Steps
By Michael Goldberg
December 10, 1981 12:00 AM ET
Someone wanted to know where your home is,” the waitress said to Mark Mothersbaugh.
"I don’t have a home," Mothersbaugh replied softly, peering at the woman through dark glasses, his short brown hair askew so that he looked like a young Dr. Strangelove.
"I told them I thought it was Mars," said the waitress, trying to stifle a less-than-charitable laugh.
"Mars," said Mothersbaugh slowly. "I wish I came from Mars. That’s where I’d like to go, anyway."
Mark Mothersbaugh, of course, isn’t from Mars. He’s from Devo. He writes songs, sings, plays synthesizers and, together with bassist-songwriter Jerry Casale, is the brains behind the band responsible for adding the phrase “whip it good” to our vocabulary.
Mothersbaugh was surprisingly good-natured about the waitress’ ribbing. He’s apparently used to that kind of thing now. And it was less of a hassle than the fans who come up to him and ask, pointblank, “Why did you sell out?”
"That makes me feel worse than anything, ‘cause I don’t know what to say," Mothersbaugh said recently while eating dinner at a gourmet health-food restaurant in Beverly Hills. "I try to tell them that it wasn’t our fault, that we were just doing what we wanted to do and somehow people ended up buying it."
In fact, Devo have been woefully misunderstood. Until “Whip It” became one of the biggest singles of 1980, Devo had meager record sales; their mix of Fifties sci-fisound effects, mechanized rock & roll and offbeat image—five yellow jump-suited industrial ants leaping about the stage in unison—was not well received by the mainstream rock audience. And while the public mostly ignored them, the critics were picking at Devo like vultures going after a dying cow.
"There’s nothing older than yesterday’s futurism," wrote Lester Bangs in the Village Voice. "Freedom of Choice [Devo’s third album, which contains "Whip It"] is so pathetic you almost feel sorry for them, but it was their choice to be geeks from the beginning, and there was never any reason to suppose that their routine wasn’t a scam." Chris Morris, reviewing a Devo concert for Rolling Stone, wrote, "Regrettably missing from the evening’s music was the sense that Devo have anything in the least to say." He added, "Devo’s show bore all the orgiastic earmarks of a Nuremberg rally for spud boys."
"Well, obviously, we’re Nazis and clowns," said Jerry Casale. "They’re all right, all those people. They’re all right on it. We’re assholes. Everything they accuse us of is true. We’re subhuman idiots who threaten them." After taking a deep breath, he continued, "You know, really, on the largest level, who cares?"
Of all the preposterous assumptions of humanity, nothing exceeds the criticisms made of the habits of the poor by the well-housed, well-warmed, and well-fed.
Herman Melville (via eudaimonist)
[[seductively does nothing to indicate I’m attracted to you]]